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A social media friend of mine recently forwarded the above link / story to me seeking my insights…
WOW! Wasn’t the whole thing heart-wrenching? The least being the picture of a loving mother kissing her dying son on the forehead. As I read Linda’s (the author) story – that of her son – Ryan, it brought tears to my eyes. In what she shared of their family’s journey and struggle… Ryan’s struggle with homosexuality, who reading that can honestly say they weren’tmoved?
One of the last complete thoughts / statements of her article that mother & author Linda shared with her Son Ryan, which I whole-heartedly agreed with was this: “You are going to have to choose to follow Jesus, no matter what. And since you know what the Bible says, and since you want to follow God, embracing your sexuality is not an option”.
What followed, is what unfortunately happens in far too many christian families these days. Instead of continuing to “love the sinner, hate the sin” family, friends often end-up compromising their own faith – beliefs to TRY to seemingly include a way for God to accept their loved one’s sinful homosexual lifestyle. Yes, God IS Love, God is the embodiment of TRUE Love… sending his Son Jesus to live the perfect life here on earth and die on the cross for all of us sinful human beings so that we might have the ability to enjoy eternal life in heaven with Him.
But, what is TRUE love? Is it to turn the other way and excuse what God clearly and consistently calls sin throughout scripture, just because your son/daughter/brother/sister/friend is the one embracing it?
I occasionally get accused (as being somewhat of a vocal ‘point person’ on this issue of homosexuality) as driving young people to suicide. The accusation goes something like this: “If it weren’t for people like you and other ‘hateful’ christians, these young people struggling with homosexuality wouldn’t turn to things like suicide…”.
In the above / referenced article, the mother (while not coming out and directly making the link – accusation) is sort of painting the picture that her son’s struggle with homosexuality is what drove him to drug abuse and addiction. And, that it was because of his continued struggle with homosexuality, that he returned to drugs and subsequently lost his life. I’m sorry if this comes across as less-than-compassionate, but who would say – who would agree with a statement like this: “Well, it was because of the message of the folks in Alcoholics Annonymous or Narcotics Annonymous, telling my loved one they needed to end their drug addiction that drove them to suicide”. Pretty crazy & absurd sounding when it’s put that way, don’t you think?
Everyone in society these days is looking for a “Quick Fix” to their problems and struggles in this life. Health problems, Financial Problems, Legal Problems, and also problems / struggles with SIN (of all kinds) including homosexuality. And, people are trying to help and comply with that desire. For those that have heard me speak in the past, this is / what was one of the problems with a group called “Exodus International” when it came to this issue of homosexuality. They nearly promised – promoted the idea of a psuedo-12 Step program for people struggling with homosexuality to go through, and nearly promised they could come out the other side transformed into a functional heterosexual. Who wouldn’t like the opportunity to go through a “12 Step Program” to rid each and every one of us from all desires to sin? But, we know that ever since the fall of our ancestors: Adam & Eve, that is NOT a possibility this side of heaven. We are ALL born sinful. We will ALL have our “Crosses To Bear” with sinful struggles while hear on earth – this side of heaven. But, then people often leave-out THE ONE who can and will help us with our struggles with sin… GOD!
Here’s some passages from scripture – God’s Word – that I continually turn / return to:
“No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear.” 1 Corinthians 10:13
“Because [Jesus] himself suffered when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted” Hebrews 2:18
“Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take [my thorn in the flesh] away from me. But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” 2 Corinthians 12:8,9
I continue to be saddened by the story of Ryan and his family. Much the same way I’m saddened every time a teenager reaches out to me with their own struggles with homosexuality. Asking me: “Is this something that I’ll always have to struggle with?…” “Will I ever be attracted to the opposite sex, have the opportunity to date, marry and have sex in a God-pleasing way?”. And, while it may seem like a cop-out, much of my answer centers around “All Things Are Possible With God!” It’s part of God’s Word that I continue to rely heavily on each and every day.